having some bad time

[lerman]

i broke up with my girlfriend, two months ago, after a year and a half, i know it's nothing serious just some teenagers stuff, but it's still hard, shy is now dating one of my bast friends (one of me Xbest Friend:eek:), well the last two months have been really bad for me, now i know who are my friends, i wasn't posting allot lately because of this thing going on, just needed to let it out, hope it will be OK.
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[dete]

sorry to hear this man,

but if that is what they wanted to do, that is what they were gonna do,
better to find out earlier than later. Better to let them be the way they are
and meet like minded people. Maybe they will change later...

As for you, remember the pain & remember never to do it to anyone else,
hold yourself up to high standards like a noble knight, but remember not to enforce your principals on anyone else, rather find someone who naturally has them like you & you two will do great.

Right now should be a period of reflection & training for you to become a better person than you were before so that you can find a better girl for yourself.

Don't worry, your not alone, I am too, also on this path & the training is tough as hell, which only makes me... *evil grin*

take care

[Chucula]

At least you have had a girlfriend. :(
Good luck though.

[MANIXWORLD]

Dude,alot of us have probably been thru the same thing as you.
It hurts,i know,but dont be too sensitive about it.
some people in this world,enjoi and get satisfaction when they can hurt someone emosionally,but you MUST stand STRONG.
you hav2 take these hardknocks and break it down to size and take it one step at a time.
You WILL get thru this and be a STRONGER person.
i ALWAYS see that its much better to be spiritually
and emosionally Strong than physically.
emosional scars do take longer to heal than physical scars,but whats important they do heal.

[lerman]

thanks guys, it feels good to talk to someone.

[AllenETreat]

i broke up with my girlfriend, two months ago, after a year and a half, i know it's nothing serious just some teenagers stuff, but it's still hard, shy is now dating one of my bast friends (one of me Xbest Friend:eek:), well the last two months have been really bad for me, now i know who are my friends, i wasn't posting allot lately because of this thing going on, just needed to let it out...

lerman -

The thing about girls, it's been my observation, they're alot like messages
in a bottle. Cast out to sea, they sometimes return. And if they don't, move
on. You'll certainly find someone else if the latter proves to be the case.

Chin up. Keep posting here lerman.

AET

[David Lowry]

lerman,

My heart goes out to ya man. I've been there too. I'm 34 years old and I've seen my share of crappy break-ups. Just know this, it will pass with time and if you're meant to be together you will be. Now I am happily married to the woman of my dreams and I love her dearly. I also have a beautiful daughter. Everything happens for a reason.

Sometimes like is hard like that. I wish you the best. If you need anything please feel free to shoot me a PM and I'll help how I can.

Cheers mate. ;)

[enduraguy]

Unlike a message in a bottle though, if they do return, you usually don't want want they bring back. An STD, more issues, more baggage, who knows what else.

[ozspyder]

Hey Lerman,

It has happened to pretty much everyone here I think. Like David I too am 34 yrs old. And as David says, things happen for a reason. I have had similar things happen to me because of a variation of reasons. But IMHO if it happened, then it was probably going to happen either sooner or later. It hurts like a MoFo.

I too met my lovely wife after something like this happened to me. I thought, what if I ended up moping and running back or chasing after my ex-GF. I would never have met my wife, and I would never have had my 5 beautiful daughters. My ife would've been totally different. Now, I'm not saying my life would've been less happy had I stayed with my ex. But it MAY have been....you just never know. All I'm saying is that it does happen to everyone, otherwise we'd all marry and livehappily ever after with the first person we date, and divorce lawyers will not make any money :p

I found it best to grieve a bit, have some time with some of your closest friends and family. Then get out there and go wimmin hunting again (this works for some), or just lay off the girls for a while and just have fun hanging out with the boys, go eat, drink, play sports, computer games or whatever you enjoy doing. Don't be a bastard (can I say this ?) about it. Best to be civil to your ex-GF and you ex-Best mate. You'd rather have them as your friends than your enemy. If they end up being together they will thank you for being the vehicle. It may hurt, but it will be the truth.

Chin up mate, you'll be right !

Dan

[spydutch]

Sorry to hear that Lerman:(

I don't see this as "just some teenage stuff".

Breaking up stinks at any age:(

Hang in there my friend. There will be better days;)

Take care..

[224477]

Lerman, buddy, everyone has been there, hang on, thats all I can tell you.
I know it sounds incredibly strange at the moment, but hang on.
I broke up with my ex begin August after 4 years of living together.
Everyone feels like sh!t when something like this happens, but that will go away, time will heal all your wounds, trust me. Thats simply life and stuff like that is a part of that, so we gotta take it as it is.
I am feeling great now and you should see me at that time... Wouldnt be a nice look.
Just hang on buddy and all`s gonna be allright soon. :cool:
Buy a new knife, or buy a dozen of new knives :D :D

[dialex]

i broke up with my girlfriend, two months ago, after a year and a half, i know it's nothing serious just some teenagers stuff, but it's still hard, shy is now dating one of my bast friends (one of me Xbest Friend)...

My ex wife is married with my ex best friend :eek: He was like my little brother :( and when I found out I went to beat the crap out of him :o
Looking now at my beautiful wife and boys, I realize I should have bought him a beer instead. After all, I already got my revenge: I let him keep her ;)
So bro, don't take it too tragically (although I know it hurts, for me it took almost two years to recover) :o . But a kick in the butt is a step forward.
I will pray for your tranquility tonight.

[Michael Cook]

:spyder: To quote B.B. King, "God made Blues right after he made Woman." :spyder:

[Tank]

Hang in there Lerman,
Breaking up sucks for sure especially when it involves a "best friend" I feel you pain for sure. My ex left me for my "best friend" /room mate. A year later I met my wife and we have been together for 12 years (as of today actually) and married for 8. As said,, time does heal.

Peace Brother.

[lerman]

thanks guys, we are all friends here, so i felt i needed to talk with you guys, i really love this place, never seen it on any other forum, we have something special:), well I'm allot batter now it still sucks, but a week ago i was just losing my mind, i meat someone new, a really nice girl, and it really helps me to stop thinking about them, thanks again for your help, the things you guys said really helped me to put a new smile on my face, honestly i love you all :D.


My ex wife is married with my ex best friend :eek: He was like my little brother :( and when I found out I went to beat the crap out of him :o
Looking now at my beautiful wife and boys, I realize I should have bought him a beer instead. After all, I already got my revenge: I let him keep her ;)
So bro, don't take it too tragically (although I know it hurts, for me it took almost two years to recover) :o . But a kick in the butt is a step forward.
I will pray for your tranquility tonight.
hi dialex, i was thinking the same thing about his punishment is that he gets to keep her:D, the thing that bathers me most is the fact that almost all of my Friends stood up for HIM and not for me, only this guys brother and my BEST friend had the guts to say the right thing, well some time you need to do a little sifting on you friends.


Hey Lerman,
you enjoy doing. Don't be a bastard (can I say this ?) about it. Best to be civil to your ex-GF and you ex-Best mate. You'd rather have them as your friends than your enemy. If they end up being together they will thank you for being the vehicle. It may hurt, but it will be the truth.

Chin up mate, you'll be right !

Dan

well i don't think i really need a friend like him, you see before we broke up he told me (and her) that we need to breakup, and after we deed hi never had the guts to tell me that Hi's dating her.

[224477]

...
Looking now at my beautiful wife and boys, I realize I should have bought him a beer instead. After all, I already got my revenge: I let him keep her ;) ...

Love that one Alex!!!! :D ;) :cool: