Payback time for the Ex-wife.....

[KBR]

To all you guys that have had H*ck with an ex-wife, whether it be from child support or other situation, I am here to tell you that in some instances there IS a light at the end of the tunnel.

Quick history......My Ex and I have been divorced for about eleven years, during which time I have found the woman that should have been the first, and only, companion for the rest of my life. In other words, I am grateful beyond belief that my first marriage didn't work out because I have found my soulmate that I've been together with for almost ten years now. :D

Anyways, back to the sweet revenge. The Ex had custody of my boy, but thanks to my wife we changed that and now he is with us, has been since '98. Mind you, when the custody case went to court, I didn't ask for any child support from the Ex because I just wanted her out of our lives. Besides that, I know that she wouldn't have paid it anyways.

The life of my Ex went to shambles after that because she went on to have three more kids.....each from different fathers! Her second child, a girl, has been thrown in my face as being my kid. Well, needless to say, I had to take a paternity test, which came back negative of course. After a whole boatload of lies that she has told my family and friends, about the little girl being mine, she was up a creek without a paddle.

How exactly was she going to explain to everyone that all her statements about me being the father were not true? LOL http://www.usualsuspect.net/forums/images/smilies/lolol.gif

And now, even though it has been proven that I'm not the kid's father, she is in disbelief....wanting to try and make me take ANOTHER DNA test!

One little thing that I forgot to mention is that before this paternity test happened, I told the Ex that regardless of the outcome, I was taking HER to court for child support. She is bitter with me and my wife, because my beautiful Kina has the life that she could have had. And now, she doesn't have me giving her a free meal ticket, since we have custody of my boy.

I've decided that it is time for her to take some responsibility for being the mother of my boy. She WILL be paying child support and I also plan on informing her that if she continues to slander me, I will be seeking legal action against her as well.

Needless to say, she isn't a happy camper right now.....

She put me, my wife and my son through alot of crap.....now she is going to get what she rightfully deserves.

[JD Spydo]

Well KBR I don't really know what exactly posessed me to read your litany of the "homemade hell" you obviously went through. But I will say this much. I have been engaged twice. Both times things ended up exploding like a nuclear weapon. Thank GOD! Glad it didn't happen after I said "I DO". I am still in the market to find a "Soul Mate" as you would put it. But I am so thankful that I have dodged the plethora of domestic bullets you have regretfully had to absorb. Learning by other's mistakes is a luxury that few of us get to take advantage of most of the time. My brother lost $200,000 worth of assets he had before he met Ms. Wrong in his divorce. You have inspired me to maybe write a book entitled "Bachelor-hood is REAL! GOOD!".
In all fairness I know that there are a lot of very good hearted and wonderful women out there in the same dilema that a lot of us guys are in. I can summize all of this by saying: There is nothing better than a good woman; BUt! BuuTTTTT!!!! there is nothing worse than a BAD ONE!!!!! May GOD Bless you and yours :confused: :spyder: :)

[CKE]

Mario, I hope everything works out for you. It is too bad divorce is such a terrible thing. Very few can just seperate and make good. Your ex should be accountable for your son. Just ask is it really worth it to have her "in your life" I guess that depends on how your son may feel as well. I have never had any experience with divorce..like yourself now, I found my soulmate:) Take Care!!!

[KBR]

JD, good luck in your search....I know that it is very hard to find someone that you can really give yourself to.

CKE, I've thought about just seeking to terminate her rights.....but that is just letting her off the hook of her responsibility to my boy. I will leave it up to my son, as he gets older, if he wants to seek/maintain a relationship with his mother. It's a shame that there are deadbeats like this that just want to seemingly throw their own flesh and blood away. She will be held accountable....

[spyderknut]

KBR,
If you never went after your ex before 'cause you knew she would not pay, why do so now? Your revenge may make it more difficult for her to raise her bastard children. Although she may deserve to suffer some, they don't. Take the higher ground and show your son how to be a man. A few drops of blood or some buccal cells to get her out of your pocket is a worthwhile exchange too. She will also suffer one day knowing she gave up your son. She has made her bed, let her lie in it.
Good luck. Breath in and out. Count to 10. Take care of you and yours.

[Hannibal Lecter]

I have been engaged twice. Both times things ended up exploding like a nuclear weapon. Thank GOD! Glad it didn't happen after I said "I DO".

In all fairness I know that there are a lot of very good hearted and wonderful women out there in the same dilema that a lot of us guys are in. I can summize all of this by saying: There is nothing better than a good woman; BUt! BuuTTTTT!!!! there is nothing worse than a BAD ONE!!!!! May GOD Bless you and yours :confused: :spyder: :)

Having been through a horrible seven year excuse for a marriage (I refer to it as my "unfortunate incarceration" in conversation), I am inclined to agree. Happily married now, but the first one should have been enough to ruin me forever. Take your time, J.D., and wait for "Ms. Right" rather than settling for "Ms. Right-Now" in a pinch. Remember: anyone can be nice for a few hours on a Friday night.

I'll sum it up like this myself: It doesn't really matter who you marry; you are sure to find out the following morning that it was someone else. :eek:

Good luck in finding a soul-mate, my friend; in this day and age, you're going to need it. My thoughts and prayers are with you.


Ta,

H

[KBR]

Spyderknut, I understand your stance and opinion, but don't misunderstand me. I am not doing this to take food out of her other TWO kids' mouths....I say two because she had her third child taken away by his father as well. I feel that it is time for her to start taking some responsibility in the raising of our boy.

Now, she doesn't call to see how he's doing, doesn't even send him birthday cards on his birthday, doesn't ask if there is anything that she can do/get for him, but when I was paying off my child support that had accumulated while he was with us, she had no problem keeping the money for herself.

What kind of a mother does this to her child?

I believe that she does regret, not just giving up her son, but giving up on our marriage as well. She has made her bed and she will lie in it, whether she wants to or not.

[spyderknut]

KBR,

I am sorry your ex has hurt you and your son. I am glad you have found a good woman and that your son has a safe and nurturing environment.

It sounds like your ex has the neither the ability nor the will to pay child support. She also does noot sound like the kind of woman I would want raising my children.

Do what is best. Think of your son first. Try not to hurt anyone innocent. There sounds like there is little to gain from revenge in this heartbreaking situation.

Take care bro